A healthy relationship is what everyone looks for; however it is not possible for everyone to accomplish. Most relationships today are dysfunctional as partners cheat and lie with each other. However wit the help of these tips, it is possible for one to start a healthy relationship, and build codependency on each other.

1. Honesty is very important for a healthy relationship. Couples that start out lying practically dig their own graves. In fact, if one partner lies, the only way the relationship will succeed if the other lies too. However these relationships based on a bed of lies is in no way worth living, or is healthy.
2. Communication is another important tool for a healthy relationship. Communication paves the way to a long relationship; so open the lines of communication and keep them open too. Be ready to listen, and be listened to by your partner.
3. If you feel that you cannot listen to your partner at the start of your relationship, this relationship may not progress. Be patient; you will soon understand each other better and have a healthy relationship.  
4. Never should you go to bed angry; any misunderstandings should be resolved before hitting the bed. It is ironical to know that couples that don’t communicate usually share all their feelings about their relationship with friends, co-workers and even strangers.
5. Trust is also important for a healthy relationship. So start trusting your mate, and at times, give them the benefit of doubt. If you shell out trust to your partner, you develop a trusting relationship in return. However if you spell disdain, jealousy and bitterness, you will only receive distrust and a communication breakdown in return.
6. Never start a relationship with high or low expectations. Don’t spend time thinking what you and your partner can provide to each other. For a healthy relationship, you have to accept a person as they are. Accept them for their natural self and not an image you may have created.
7. Hold realistic expectations about your partner and accept them as a friend for what they are and not for what they provide to you. If you enjoy a person’s company, and they yours, this could signify the start of a healthy relationship.
8. A healthy relationship is possible only if you are ready to accept a change. You may have to move to a new town, change schools or jobs or even meet new people; be ready for this. If you are inflexible at the start of a relationship, it will be difficult to maintain a healthy relationship as you and your partner will find it difficult adjusting to each other throughout the relationship.
9. Remember that no matter how old you are, you keep changing. You will come across other challenges and problems in life; once you adapt to these changes, adapting to changes in your relationship does not prove to be difficult too.

So to start a healthy relationship, you will have to not change your thought process, but instead, reform all your ideas of a healthy relationship with the help of these tips.

Most couples today turn to divorce to ‘solve’ their problems instead of making an attempt to resolve their difference. However in this swarm of divorcees, there are still some couples that are committed to each other after years of marriage, because of these few tips.

1. For a successful marriage, you have to realize that you sometimes need to change yourself and not always expect your spouse to change. Married couples tend to blame their spouses for whatever goes wrong in their marriage.

However instead of blaming each other, put your feet in your spouse’s shoes, and ask yourself if you would have married yourself. If you find it difficult to say ‘yes’, its better for you to work at changing the traits you don’t like about yourself before pointing out your spouse’s flaws.

2. Instead of running to the lawyer, its better to consult a marriage counselor for help with your marriage. Don’t think this as an embarrassment as by sharing your differences with a third person, you see and understand things with a different perspective.
3. At times, your marital relationship should take first priority over other relationships, including your children. If there is some friction between you two, the most your children will experience is some tension, which is better than a divorce.

Many a time, putting children first is a grave mistake in marriages. Couples have to realize that it is only if they are committed to each other will their marriage succeed.

4. Instead of fighting in a heated condition, its better to take a breather, a 15 minute walk or change the topic till you are sure you can both talk calmly about the topic. The happily merrily couple knows how to argue productively and that backing away from an argument does not signify losing an argument. It is by finding common ground in the end, that both partners win an argument.
5. Remember that each marriage is unique; so don’t commit the mistake of comparing your marriage with others’ marriages. Though you may always find a couple that is happier than you, once you find what clicks for you and your spouse, just focus on it to build a successful marriage.
6. Past relationships are meant to be past. It is normal for one to repent decisions made in the past during a marital conflict. However pondering about the past will not help your marriage in any way. Instead, focus on the present and find out how you can improve your marital relationship.
7. Learn to be happy with what you have. Getting up every morning focusing on the negative aspects of your marriage only worsens your marriage. Instead, start each day thinking how great a person your spouse is, and remember all the things they had done for you in the past.

Last, but not least, always leave your parents at home. Don’t consult your parents about everything in your marital life as it only belittles the bond you hold with your spouse, and can lead to friction in your marriage.